10 Things I refuse to do in Youth Ministry

November 4, 2013     Ben Read    

A few years ago I wrote this post on my old blog, and I was thinking about it this afternoon for some reason, so I decided to reshare it. It’s a bit humbling to go back through some of these and consider how they hold up in my ministry years later, in a different context.

Having a list of non-negotiables for your ministry is something I believe to be of great value for your Leadership. I’d encourage you to write out your own list. Here is mine from a few years ago, maybe I’ll add some new ones sometime soon.

1 |I refuse to seriously wear a goatee for more than an hour. It was the Youth Ministry staple years ago, but I refuse.
2 |I refuse to let my ministry to students destroy my ministry to my family, even when my family just consists of my Wife, I                 refuse.
3 |I refuse to be content running a ministry that only affects kids on the days of youth group.
4 |I refuse to minister to only church members, in fact, most of the youth budget will be going into kids who are not church members. You can fight me to death over this, but I refuse.
5 |I refuse to allow a kid to talk bad about our church. Even if I agree, Even if I have my own problems with things, I refuse.
6 |I refuse to be told how to do youth ministry by someone who has never been to a youth group. I will gladly take your advice on how to best reach your children, I would love to sit down and talk about that, but I refuse to let a parent dictate the way we do ministry to everyone.
7 |I refuse to let kids leave youth group bored.
8 |I refuse to let kids see so much entertainment that they miss the purpose.
9 |I refuse to ever be content with where our group is at.
10 |I refuse to ever be content where I am at, and where our leaders are at.
 
What would you add to this list? What are things you are passionate about in Youth Ministry that are Non-Negotiable to the way you minister to Teens?
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29 thoughts on “10 Things I refuse to do in Youth Ministry”

  1. Brian Lucas

    I refuse to cater to people over the leading of God in my ministry. I welcome your input and feedback. But this is God’s church and, in the end, I answer to Him alone.

  2. Brian Lucas

    I refuse to cater to people over the leading of God in my ministry. I welcome your input and feedback. But this is God’s church and, in the end, I answer to Him alone.

  3. Phil Cannon

    I refuse to teach students that food is for playing games with. Even though the typical youth group fun and messy games usually involve food as a play thing, there are people in our very city who could benefit from having access to that thing we would so easily waste in the name of fun and so therefore, I refuse.

  4. Phil Cannon

    I refuse to teach students that food is for playing games with. Even though the typical youth group fun and messy games usually involve food as a play thing, there are people in our very city who could benefit from having access to that thing we would so easily waste in the name of fun and so therefore, I refuse.

  5. farismatic

    Hey Ben,

    I was looking for a place to email this to you, but couldn’t find it. I commented earlier, but it didn’t show up. Is there a reason why? I can’t figure out if something is wrong with my disqus profile or if it was moderated for some reason.

    Thanks brother.

    Andrew

  6. Sara Saleh

    I refuse to give my sincere attention ONLY to the kids who give me theirs. All kids deserve to be heard, even if they aren’t part of my “core” bunch.

  7. HeatherLeaCampbell

    I refuse to try to look like other youth pastors, and instead try to look more like Christ.

    I refuse to make a prerequisite for kids to attend church. Come as you are, friends.

    I refuse to be such a bull-horn that I am not sensitive to my culture.

    I refuse to listen to anything more than I listen to the Holy Spirit.

  8. Timothy Parker

    I’m not going to “refuse” anything, but instead ask a question.

    How do you allocate your budget to kids that aren’t youth group members? How does that look?

    1. Ben Read

      Hey Tim, I mean things like giving scholarships to unchurched kids to go on events, doing events that draw in kids who don’t normally come to church, that type of stuff.

  9. Drake Farmer

    Great post. Such a good reminder to keep on what we are CALLED to do. Thank you for your words.

    But man. No goatee. Come on, at least let me have that. 😉

  10. Mary

    I refuse to let my youth be treated like cheap labor for the rest of the church’s programs. Service to our faith community should not be dictated by laziness on the part of the adults

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