You don’t have to look at porn

September 1, 2015     Ben Read    

overcoming porn struggle

There have already been a number of articles out about the Ashley Madison hack and the number of pastors on that list, and I don’t want to just write on how great of a shame that is. It’s a shame the number of men and women in our world who struggle with this sin.  It’s a shame that many men and women won’t be forced to deal with it because they aren’t “big name” bloggers or reality TV stars.

What bothers me is that more likely than not, many of the men on the list from Ashley Madison had software installed on their computer, like X3 Watch or Covenant eyes, designed to keep them accountable with what they were watching, and still they sinned. It bothers me because in so many books, in so many seminars, in so many men’s accountability groups, it’s presented as the way to fix the porn problem.

We need to quit pussyfooting around the Porn and Masturbation issue as a church.

You know what phrase I’m tired of hearing? “Everyone struggles with it.”

I hate that we’ve developed a sense of normalcy for sin and created an almost defeatist mindset when it comes to the struggle. It’s too easy to say “It’s a sin you have to deal with” and let ourselves and others continue in it.

A Cambridge study in 2014 declared that Porn has clear similarities to Drug addiction. But if someone in a church has a drug addiction, a healthy church is going to take certain steps to help that person out, get them clean. They won’t say “Well, everyone struggles with it, and you’re just going to have to find ways to conquer it. Maybe don’t go to areas that might be on the same road as your drug dealer, and install this software on your computer so if you do go to those places.  It will email me about it.”

Porn is sin. I’ve seen porn destroy families and marriages.

You don’t have to struggle with porn – you don’t have to keep looking at it. You’ve got no business looking at it in the first place.

God’s grace covers all sin, including porn and mastiurbation. God’s word also says to flee from sexual immorality, to be holy. If we’re honest with ourselves, we bring the addiction upon us, and we choose to let it control us. You can just as easily choose to give it up.

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  1. Matt Edwards

    This is completely honest, truthful, and solid! I totally agree that we have to take a stand and aggressively fight against an addiction that has infected our culture and devastated our families. I pray that churches and church-leadership can develop a more holistic view and approach to defend against this addiction and sin that currently runs rapid because it is too taboo to try and tackle.

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