Engaging students you have nothing in common with

May 15, 2013     Josh Read    

Confession time: I like to talk to people who are like me. You probably do the same thing as well. You naturally gravitate to someone in a room who you feel you have a connection with. On Sunday mornings and Wednesday nights, the people I’m around that I have the most in common with are the adults in the room. They have kids. They have jobs. They have bills and schedules and other “adult” things going on.

The students in the room? They have homework. And soccer practice. And girlfriends. And video games.
OK, so I at least have video games in common with students.

The next time you’re in a room with adults and students, make an effort to have conversation with multiple students before you seek out your adult friends. As a volunteer, you came for the students. They are the ones you’re ministering to.

If it helps, decide to have three conversations with students before talking with an adult about their week. The conversations don’t have to end in a Gospel presentation (though you never know!), but should be longer than “Hey! How was your week?”

Ask them how their extra curricular programs are going. Ask them what their plans are for the next holiday. Ask them about their jobs, their boyfriends, their school, their home, their math test, even their video games. Show students that you came for them by engaging them as they walk into the room. It can make a huge difference later on as they reflect on their experience in the youth group.

Seek out students first, you never know what you’ll find!

 

This was submitted to the site by Ronald Long using the Submit button near the top of the site. We didn’t ask for enough information from him to give him a bio, so Ronald, if you see this, message me so we can fix it.

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0 thoughts on “Engaging students you have nothing in common with”

  1. C Sylling

    Great post. We must make them feel like they are important to us because we may be the only people in their life that give them that feeling. Doing this will give us many more chances in bringing the gospel to them in a way they will relate to.

    1. Ben Read

      And not only that, it helps remind us to be the gospel to them, love them because Jesus loves them, not because we want something from them.

  2. C Sylling

    Great post. We must make them feel like they are important to us because we may be the only people in their life that give them that feeling. Doing this will give us many more chances in bringing the gospel to them in a way they will relate to.

    1. Ben Read

      And not only that, it helps remind us to be the gospel to them, love them because Jesus loves them, not because we want something from them.

  3. Katy Johnston

    This is great! You get easy answers from how are you or how was your week/day, but one question I’ve started asking teens is what would you like to change about your week/day? Definitely some interesting responses, but you get deeper conversation.

  4. Katy Johnston

    This is great! You get easy answers from how are you or how was your week/day, but one question I’ve started asking teens is what would you like to change about your week/day? Definitely some interesting responses, but you get deeper conversation.

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